Smiley Happy People....?

I always like to think that there are more happy, cheerful people in the world than not. Its hard to believe this when everyone you pass sneers at you or looks mad if you meet their eyes. I live in a summer village beside a lake, where you know your neighbours and you do 35 km/h down a dirt road. Meaning you have plenty of time to wave at anyone around you. I make it a practice to wave any anyone I see or pass on that road, but I have to say I get an angry look back much of the time.

Why are people always so judgemental? Is there something about me that says I'm not worthy of a smile or wave? I dunno. But it is definitely sad that I am judged by where I live or who with or whatever.

Some things that you should know in order for this post to make sense. When I was living at home, people around the lake ie. in the small community I live in now, knew me through my mother, who at the time owned the little store there. Everyone liked me because most knew I taught the local kids kung fu, I got honors and I was a college student. Aka, I was doing something with my life, I had potential, I was making the right decisions, etc. At the same time, there was one guy who had a bad reputation. He was a bachelor who lived at the lake by himself in the house that he was left by his late dad (sad story, maybe another time). He often had friends over on the weekends, and would have a fire, play horse shoes and play music. He was never irresponsible, would help his elderly neighbour, clear the driveways around him, fix his neighbours truck. But, yes, he would throw a good party once in a while. And because of this, he had a bad rep, was thought of as young, dumb, reckless, a nuisance, tsk tsk that guy is not going to go anywhere with his life.

Well, I'm engaged to this man. He has settled down, and I can say from experience that he is one of the smartest, most loyal, hardest working and kindest people I know. In his words, he didn't settle down because he didn't have a reason to. I came along, and that changed. Mind you, we still play horse shoes frequently.

Anyways, the point is that people will believe what they want no matter what they see. Since I started dating him, I have been given the image of reckless, dumb, I'm not going anywhere with my life. All because I chose to be with a guy they didn't like. And this all comes from people that do not know me or him.

Thank goodness that those who do know us know we are good people, who clear the driveways around us and help the old lady catch her cats. My man is a great man.

I guess all I really had to say was get to know someone before you judge them.